When it comes to relationships, whether it be friendship or romance, I am very much to the point. If I like you, you’ll know. I’m not above saying “You’re amazing! Are we friends now? We’re friends now. I love how we just clicked so well” or “Look, I like you, but I don’t want to be in a relationship with you.” In fact, a few dates in with my current boyfriend (then, not boyfriend) I decided I seriously liked him. But, we were both heading back to college in a few weeks and this meant I had to define the relationship *dunn dun dunnnn* or risk potentially being on the wrong page and not trying something I know might work.
So, we were in his basement, and I said, “Look. I actually really like you. I don’t know where you stand, but I’d really like to see where this goes. Would you want to be exclusive or something?” and, whaddayaknow! He said he felt the same, he would love that and he was really glad I’d brought it up because he was too nervous to do so. Then, a few months later he defined the relationship by officially asking me to be his girlfriend. He did this in a semi-grand gesture, whereas that same night I was planning to bring it up and have another DTR talk. Perfect timing on his part.
Anyway, defining the relationships can give you plenty of clarity and help you have a bit more certainty. Personally, I cannot stand not knowing where I stand with someone else. Here are some myths, tips and advice for defining the relationship!
