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8 things standing in the way of you finding true love

8 things standing in the way of finding true love - reasons you're not finding love or falling in love

I’m not an expert on love by any means whatsoever. But perhaps my college professor who studied all of this sort of stuff kind of was. One of the few lessons I’ve retained from college (sorry!) is the one about the eight relationship roadblocks. I learned all about them, read about them, memorized them, wrote an essay about them, and I still reference them when giving my friends dating advice. And when giving myself dating advice. They’re more or less the things stopping you from falling in love. Or having a healthy relationship.

They’re pretty legit. So here’s the deal. I’m going to explain these roadblocks in layman’s super basic easy-to-understand- useful terms. And I hope it might help. Here’s what’s holding you back from finding love… or, at the very least, a healthy and happy relationship.

Here’s how to properly end or fix a friendship

here's how to properly fix or end a friendship

Sometimes you just realize you’ve been spending time with people that are no longer cutting it.

Sometimes your “friend” reveals their true colors… and it turns out you don’t like the colors as much as you thought.

And when you reach the point where you’re questioning the value and validity of a relationship, it could be time to end or a fix a friendship. But other times, your friendship is simply going through a rough patch and it just needs a bit of extra attention.

In some cases, it can be tough to tell. Although I’m no expert, I’ve been through and been a witness of the evaporation of many friendships, good and bad. And this is what I’ve picked up on.

Here’s how to how to tell if perhaps a friendship is worth putting that extra work into, and how to mend it if it is. And here’s how to end that friendship (in the best way possible) if it just is no longer working.
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Defining the Relationship: Myths, Tips & Advice

When it comes to relationships, whether it be friendship or romance, I am very much to the point. If I like you, you’ll know. I’m not above saying “You’re amazing! Are we friends now? We’re friends now. I love how we just clicked so well” or “Look, I like you, but I don’t want to be in a relationship with you.” In fact, a few dates in with my current boyfriend (then, not boyfriend) I decided I seriously liked him. But, we were both heading back to college in a few weeks and this meant I had to define the relationship *dunn dun dunnnn* or risk potentially being on the wrong page and not trying something I know might work.

So, we were in his basement, and I said, “Look. I actually really like you. I don’t know where you stand, but I’d really like to see where this goes. Would you want to be exclusive or something?” and, whaddayaknow! He said he felt the same, he would love that and he was really glad I’d brought it up because he was too nervous to do so. Then, a few months later he defined the relationship by officially asking me to be his girlfriend. He did this in a semi-grand gesture, whereas that same night I was planning to bring it up and have another DTR talk. Perfect timing on his part.

Anyway, defining the relationships can give you plenty of clarity and help you have a bit more certainty. Personally, I cannot stand not knowing where I stand with someone else. Here are some myths, tips and advice for defining the relationship!

The Guide to Strong & Healthy Relationships in College

Strong relationships in college are often hit or miss. I’ve seen relationships that have been strong since freshman year and relationships that totally blew up and left people friendless and bummed out. Luckily, there are plenty of ways to ensure your relationship is a strong one and, if it ends up not working out, you won’t be left friendless and utterly heartbroken.

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8 things standing in the way of you finding true love

Here’s how to properly end or fix a friendship

Defining the Relationship: Myths, Tips & Advice

The Guide to Strong & Healthy Relationships in College

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